The Prenuptial Questionnaire

{This was originally posted on the Weddzilla Blog this morning.}

Although it was nearly a month ago, I think it's worth noting that Jeff and I completed a pre-nuptial questionnaire.  I'm not talking about a legal contract.  The prenuptial questionnaire is one of the requirements for being married in the Catholic church.

We met with Father English on Sunday, March 28, to complete this questionnaire.  Per his explanation, the whole point of the questionnaire was to be certain of our freedom, that is, that we were both entering into this marriage freely.  The interviews were conducted separately, as another means of ensuring that we could answer freely.  The questions covered a range of topics: the length we have known each other, our mental health, whether or not we have physical defects that would affect sex, whether we have ever been married.  It was much easier than I was expecting.

There were a few notable moments.  I tensed up for a fraction of a second when I had to report my address, knowing that in ten minutes Jeff would be providing the same address.  But we don't regret our choice to live together, and when the three of us met again after the questionnaire, Father English did not mention it at all.  Also, when he asked how long Jeff and I have known each other, I was a bit shocked when it added up to over five and a half years.  Father was thrilled- he said it was wonderful to hear that we had known each other for so long.

Now that we have completed everything on the list of Catholic wedding requirements (except the marriage license, which will have to wait until the end of May), it's pretty easy to breathe a sigh of relief.  Barring any freak accidents, we at least will be married on our wedding day, even if nothing else goes right.